Me yasa yara "masu rikitarwa" suna da halaye da yawa
Kalmar "mai kawo rigima" tana dangantawa, ba don rikici ba, amma don karɓar takarda. Yana da wani ƙayyadadden lokacin da masu bincike suke amfani da su a cikin zamantakewa (nazarin halin zamantakewa). Masu bincike na zamantakewar al'umma sun gano matsayinsu na yara ta hanyar gudanar da bincike da kuma sanyawa daya daga cikin biyar lakabi:
- An ƙaryata
- An yi watsi
- Matsakaicin
- Popular
- Mai kawo rigima
A cikin binciken da ake gudanarwa tsakanin 'yan uwan, an tambayi yara su yi la'akari da ƙungiyar su (yawanci yawan su) ta hanyar amsa tambayoyi kamar:
- Wanene abokiyarku uku mafi kyau a wannan rukuni?
- Mene ne mutum uku a cikin wannan rukuni ka fi sha'awa?
- Wadanne mutane uku a cikin wannan rukuni zasu fi jin dadin tafiya kullin?
Menene Yara Ciki?
"Ƙwararrun yara" suna karɓar ra'ayoyin masu kyau da kyakkyawan ra'ayi daga 'yan uwansu. A wasu kalmomi, wasu takwarorin suna son ɗan ƙaramin rikice-rikice (watau, kira shi " aboki mafi kyau ") yayin da wasu sun ƙi shi ƙwarai.
Dalilai masu rikitarwa suna da halaye waɗanda ke sanya su baya ga 'yan uwansu. Sun kasance sun kasance mafi muni fiye da sauran shekarunsu. Saboda wannan, sukan haifar da matsala a cikin aji kuma suna haifar da matsalolin dangi tare da takwarorina. Wannan ya ce, 'yan yara masu rikitarwa suna zama masu dacewa a cikin al'umma kamar yara masu kyau, kuma suna da damar yin abokantaka, taimako da hadin gwiwa. Sun kasance masu jagoranci na al'ada kuma ana girmama su sosai don sun yarda su yi tsalle da kuma daukar nauyin.
Ta haka ne yara masu rikitarwa suna da dabi'u masu kyau da kuma halayen kirki, suna jagorantar wasu yara - da malaman - suyi tunanin cewa waɗannan yara suna da ban mamaki yayin da wasu ke tunanin cewa su ba kome bane sai matsala.
Masu bincike sunyi imanin cewa akwai 'yan yara da yawa waɗanda suka dace da bayanin "mai kawo rigima".
Watakila, sakamakon haka, an yi bincike kadan domin fahimtar wannan rukuni. Daga cikin 'yan abu kaɗan masu bincike zasu iya cewa game da ɗan ƙaramin rikici shine:
- Yawan yara maza fiye da 'yan mata sunyi dacewa da bayanin martaba
- 'Yan mata na iya zama "masu jayayya" a cikin saitunan al'umma fiye da a cikin aji
- Yaran yara masu rikitarwa suna da kyakkyawar ma'amala da yawa tare da ƙananan yara
- Ba abu mai ban mamaki ba ne ga yaro mai rikitarwa ya canja halin a tsawon lokaci, kuma sau da yawa ya shiga ƙungiyar "mashahuri" saboda sakamakon karfi na zamantakewar al'umma.
Abubuwan da suka shafi: ƙananan yara, watsi da yaron, yaran yara, ya ƙi yaro, matsayi na zamantakewa
Sources:
Furman, Wyndol, McDunn, Christine, da kuma Young, Brennan. Matsayin Harkokin Abokan Hulɗa da Saduwa a Abokin Yammacin Yara. A cikin NB Allen & L. Sheeber (Eds.) Yara da ci gaba da motsin zuciyar mutum da kuma bayyanar cututtuka. 2008. Cambridge, Birtaniya: Jami'ar Cambridge Jami'ar.
Wentzel, Kathryn R., & Ashiru, Steven R. Aikin Ilimin Kwararru, Karyata, Popular, da Ƙwararrun yara. Ƙara Yara. 1995. 66: 754-763.