Amsa canji an bayyana a matsayin "canza fasalin halayyar ta hanyar yin amfani da irin waɗannan hanyoyin ilmantarwa kamar yadda aka yi amfani da kwayoyin halitta da ƙarfafawa ko magunguna." Fiye da haka, zaku iya ƙarfafa yaron ku kasance mafi kyau ta hanyar kulawa da hankali ga sakamakon da yaronku ya samu don kyakkyawan hali.
Halin gyara yana dogara ne akan ra'ayin cewa hali mai kyau zai haifar da sakamako mai kyau.
Kuma halayen kirki zai haifar da sakamakon da ba ta da kyau.
Idan aka yi amfani da shi akai-akai, zai iya haifar da canje-canjen halayya mai yawa a tsawon lokaci. Ana yin amfani da gyaran halayya don tsaftace yara tare da ADHD , autism ko rikici masu adawa , amma zai iya tasiri ga yara kowane iri.
Halin sauyawa ya shafi sakamako mai kyau, mummunar azaba, tabbatacciyar ƙarfafawa da ƙin ƙarfafawa.
Aminci mai kyau
Ana amfani da azabtar don dakatar da halayen ƙira. Kuma yayin da yake da damuwa don nuna damuwa a matsayin azabtarwa, a cikin yanayin sharaɗi, kalma tabbatacce yana nufin karawa. Sabili da haka azabtarwa tabbatacciya ta shafi ƙara ƙarin abin da zai hana yaron ya sake maimaita hali.
Misalan misalan alamu na hakika sun haɗa da:
- Iyaye suna ba da yaro karin aikin da ya yi lokacin da yake kwance game da tsaftace ɗakin dakunsa.
- Yarinya ya ce da rantsuwa kuma malamansa sun gaya masa ya rubuta kalmomi 100 yana cewa ba zai sake yin rantsuwa ba.
Spanking ne kuma misali na azãba mai kyau. Amma mafi yawan masana sun yarda cewa ba'a yi amfani da azabar corporal a gyare-gyare na hali ba.
Magancin Kisa
Halin da ya dace ya shafi cire wani abu daga yaro. Misalan sun hada da karɓar kyauta ko cire hankali mai kyau . Kuskure mara kyau na iya zama hanyoyi masu tasiri don taimakawa yaron ya koya daga kuskure.
Misalan misalai na mummunar azaba sun haɗa da:
- Yarin da aka sanya a cikin lokaci don rashin kuskure ya cire shi daga yanayin da yake jin dadi.
- Iyaye yana amfani da aikin hanawa don janye dukkan hankali lokacin da yaro ya nuna fushi .
- Yarinya ya rasa dukiya ta wayar salula idan ba ta samu aikin aikin gida ba.
Kyakkyawan Ƙarfafa
Amincewa mai kyau yana nufin ba da yarinya wani abu yana ƙarfafa halin kirki. Kwararren da ke dogara da yawa akan ƙarfafawa mai ƙarfi yana da tasiri sosai. Misalai na ƙarfin ƙarfafawa sun hada da yabo , tsarin ladabi , ko tsarin tattalin arziki .
Misalan misalai na ƙarfin ƙarfafawa sun haɗa da:
- Yarin yaro ya yi yayyafi a cikin rushe lokacin da yake cin abinci kuma mahaifiyarsa ta ce, "Babban aikin da ke sa tulunku kafin in tambayi ku!"
- Yara yana samun lokaci don kunna wasanni na bidiyo don kammala aikin aikinsa ba tare da jayayya ba.
- Wata matashi da ke karatun karatunsa a kowane lokaci yana karɓar A a kan rahotonsa.
Ƙarfafa Ƙarƙashin
Rashin ƙarfin zuciya shine lokacin da yaro ya tilasta canza halinsa domin zai cire wani abu mara kyau. Yarinya wanda ya dakatar da hali saboda iyayensa yana kuka a gare shi yana ƙoƙari ya kawar da magungunan ƙwayar cuta (yarin murya).
Dole ne a yi amfani da ƙarfafawa mara kyau tareda yara kamar yadda yake da wuya ya zama tasiri kamar ƙarfafawa.
Misalan misalai na ƙin ƙarfafawa sun haɗa da:
- Uwar tana kiran danta don yin aikinsa a kowace dare don haka wata rana ya yanke shawarar yin aikinsa daidai lokacin da ya dawo gida daga makaranta don kaucewa sauraron ta.
- Yarinya yana cikin muhawara tare da takwarorina a tashar bas din sai mahaifiyarsa ta yanke shawara ta tafi tashar bas din tare da shi kowace rana. Ya fara yin aiki a tashar bas don haka mahaifiyarsa ba zata jira bas din tare da shi ba.
- Wani matashi yana jin dadi game da rashin so ya tafi makaranta duk yana zuwa makarantar kowane safiya. Mahaifinsa ya sake yin magana akan rediyo don ya nutsar da shi. Kashegari da matashi ya dakatar da gunaguni don haka mahaifinsa ba zai juya rediyo ba.
Yadda za a Yi Amfani da Sauyi na Hanyar Canji don Canza Hannun Ɗanka
Idan kuna fatan canza yanayin halayen ku, abubuwan da suka fi muhimmanci su tuna shine kuyi amfani da ƙarfin hali don kyakkyawan hali da kuma azabtarwa ga kowane abin da ya faru na rashin kuskure.
Idan aka yi amfani da shi akai-akai, halayen gyaran gyare-gyaren halayen za su iya canza halin ɗan ya. Alal misali, fara yin yabonka a duk lokacin da ya keɓaɓɓen, ya faɗi kalmomi masu kyau, kuma yana amfani da matsalolin mai tawali'u. Bayan haka, duk lokacin da ya bugi wani, sanya shi a cikin lokaci-lokaci ko ya dauke wani dama.
Bayan lokaci, zai koyi cewa halin kirki yana haifar da sakamako mai kyau kuma mummunan hali yakan haifar da sakamakon da ya faru.
> Sources
> Cibiyar Harkokin Ƙananan yara da yara na Amirka;
> HealthyChildren.org: Ra'ayin Farko ga Yara tare da ADHD.