Ga iyaye masu jin dadin kiyaye yara a layi tare da "Za ku fi kyau saboda kwarewar Santa", godiya ya zama lokacin da barazanar fara farawa. Tsoron kullun kwalba a cikin kaya, tare da tunatarwar "ba za ku sami kyauta a wannan shekara ba," ana iya amfani dashi don laifukan da suka fito daga tashin hankali na jiki zuwa ga rashin bin doka.
Kodayake tunatarwa cewa Santa "ya san lokacin da kake barci," kuma ya "san lokacin da kake farka," an yi amfani da su don tsararraki, dabarun leƙen asiri ya canza a cikin shekaru.
Idan barazanar damar fasaha na Santa don kallon kowane yaro daga kowane nesa ba ya da kyau, yanzu Santa yana kallo wanda ya taimake shi ya lura da wanda ya kasance a cikin jerin lalata. Elf a kan kulawar Shelf yana kulawa da hankali ga yara cewa Santa zai san idan sun kasance nagari ko mummunan wannan shekara.
A bayyane yake, damuwa na bukukuwan na iya haifar da yara da yawa don yin aiki fiye da saba. Kuma ko da yake iyaye masu yawa suna barazanar cewa ba za a sami kyauta ba idan halayyar yaro ba ta inganta ba, iyaye kawai suna bin wannan barazanar.
Kuma yayinda barazanar kasancewa a kan jerin lalacewar Santa ɗin na iya tunatar da wasu yara don yin halayyar, barazanar kullun ba shakka ba ya aiki ga mafi rinjaye. Don haka yana barazanar soke Kirsimeti wani mahimman ƙwarewar iyaye.
Matsalolin Amfani da Kirsimeti a matsayin Mai Taimako
Samun yara da za su iya kasancewa ga wani baƙo-game da ku - abu ne mai ban sha'awa. Yana cewa, "Santa yana son ku zama mai kyau," maimakon, "Ina son ku zama mai kyau," ya sa ya zama kamar yaro ya kamata ya kula da ra'ayi fiye da yadda kuke.
M barazana mai mahimmanci ba aikin taɓa iyaye ba ne.
Yarda da yaronka game da halinsa da kuma gargadi shi ba zai sami kyauta ba zai iya lalacewa ga abin da kake da shi. Lokacin da Santa ke ba da kyauta-ko da kuwa halin da ake ciki a baya - ɗanka zai ɗauka cewa ba ku san abin da kuke magana ba.
A bayyane yake, yawancin yara basu damu da abin da ke faruwa gobe, duk da haka a cikin 'yan makonni daga yanzu. Saboda haka barazanar rashin samun kwanakin koli ko makonni a nan gaba bazai zama da yawa ba.
Bugu da ƙari, ra'ayin da kake da shi na "zama mai kyau," wani batu ne mai ban mamaki. Ya bar yara da yawa suna mamaki, "Yaya zan zama da gaske?" Har ila yau, ya kawo wannan tambaya, menene "zama mai kyau" gaske yake nufi? Kai da yaronku suna da bambancin ra'ayi game da abin da ya cancanci "mai kyau."
Sauran zabi ga "Jerin Nau'in"
Lokaci na hutu yana cika da lokaci na iyali, sugary yana bi, kuma yana canje-canjen ga al'ada. Kuma yayin da waɗannan abubuwa zasu zama abin ban dariya, har ila yau suna iya damuwa ga yara. Wannan shine dalilin da ya sa matsalolin haɓaka da yawa a lokacin bukukuwa suna da yawa.
Tunatar da yara don yin halayyar haka sunayensu suna fitowa a "jerin masu kyau" zasu iya zama duka da kyau. Amma bazai iya kasancewa mai amfani mai mahimmancin magance halayya ba.
Don haka, maimakon barazanar ɗaukar Kirsimeti da kuma zarge shi a kan mutumin da ke cikin babban kwat da wando, la'akari da waɗannan shawarwari:
- Yayinda yara keyi mafi kyau idan suna da sakamakon gaggawa saboda rashin tausayi . To, idan yaro ya kashe dan'uwansa, to da zarar ya fita zai kasance mafi tasiri fiye da barazanar "kallon Santa."
- Kids suna buƙatar takamaiman manufofin . Maimakon yin niyyar "zama mai kyau," yaro ya fi dacewa ya amsa wani burin kamar "yi amfani da kalmomi masu kyau", ko kuma "yi amfani da kalmomin kirki kawai tare da kare."
- Tsarin sakamako shine babban motsawa . Ƙirƙirar suturar hoto ko tsarin tattalin arziki wanda ya ba da damar yaronka ya sami ladabi a nan gaba don takamaiman hali.
- Amincewa mai kyau yafi tasiri fiye da barazana . Yi amfani da yabo da kariminci don nuna halin kirki da kuma samar da yalwace mai kyau.
- Yin magana da yaron yana kan "lalataccen jerin" bazai yiwu ya yi yawa don amfanin kansa ba . Yara suna yin kyau idan sun ji daɗin kansu. Yi amfani da dabarun horo wanda ke inganta kyakkyawar girman kai .
- Yi aiki a kan matsalolin halayya a duk tsawon shekara. Idan kun damu da yaron ku kasance " mai nuna godiya " ko ɓarna, warwarewar Kirsimeti daya lokaci bazai canza yanayin halin yaronku ba. Maimakon haka, yi aiki a kan godewa godiya a kowace rana na shekara baya ga hana bukukuwa daga kasancewa game da kyauta.
Idan za ku yi amfani da Elf a kan Shelf da masu tuni game da "jerin lalata," yi amfani da shi a cikin mai kyau, ba a matsayin jagorancin maganin ba. Bayan haka, lokacin hutu yana takaice kuma kana buƙatar yin amfani da makamai da tsararren horo na tsawon lokaci bayan an buɗe takardun. Turawa akan koyar da yaro don nuna hali saboda abin da ya kamata ya yi, ba don ba zai sami lada a kan Kirsimeti ba.
> Sources
> HealthyChildren.org: ABC System.
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