Dalilin da yasa wasu yara ke sha wahala daga Low Self Estemem
Yara yara suna da matakan da suka dace da girman kai, amma tare da farkon shekaru, rashin girman kai na iya kasancewa cikin batun. Akwai wasu dalilai masu ma'ana wanda ya sa girman girman kansu ya fara bayyana a lokacin samari.
Ra'ayin kai mai tsayi ya kasance daga kwatanta da wasu
Yanayin tsakanin shekaru shida da 11, yara sukan fara kwatanta kansu da takwarorinsu.
Wannan sabon yanayin zamantakewa yana faruwa ne saboda dalilai na zamantakewa da zamantakewa. Masanin ilimin ilimin kimiyya Erik Erikson ya yi imanin cewa kwatancin kai tsaye ya kafa mataki ga mafi girma gwagwarmaya da yara suka fuskanta a wannan shekarun. Babban rikice-rikicen da ya yi, ya yi imani, yana ci gaba da bunkasa masana'antu, ko jin dadi, yayin da yake guje wa rashin jin dadi.
Ra'ayin kai mai tsayi shi ne saboda rashin jin dadi
Kamar yadda Erikson ya lura, wasu yara sun fahimci cewa kokarin su ba su da kyau kamar na abokan su kuma sun fara jin daɗin. Duk da haka, ko da yake, jin dadi ba a cikin dukkanin duniya yana haifar da girman kai ba. Idan rashin talaucin yaro ya faru a wani yanki ba ya darajarta, irin su wasan kwaikwayo, ba zai iya ɗaukar girman kansa ba. Idan, duk da haka, bai dace ba a wani yanki da ya sami mahimmanci, irin su malaman kimiyya , yana fuskantar hadarin bunkasa girman kai.
Ƙara Rashin Ƙwaƙwalwar Ayyuka Zai Yarda Ƙaddamar Ƙasar Kai
Har ila yau, matsa lamba yana ƙaruwa a lokacin shekaru.
A lokacin farkon da ƙuruciya, iyaye da malamai suna yaba da duk wani kokarin, babba ko ƙanana, matalauta ko kyau. Yayin da yarinya ke kaiwa, duk da haka, manya zasu fara sa ran karin yara; ƙoƙari na da mahimmanci, amma wasan kwaikwayo yana farawa da kwayar halitta. A sakamakon haka, tweens ba wai kawai yin kwatancen kansu ba tare da abokansu, amma kuma suna shaida masu girma suna yin wannan kwatancin.
Ra'ayin kai mai kyau daga tsammanin wasu mutane ba su da kyau
Yayinda iyayensu da malamai suka yi tsammanin tsammanin tayi yawa, tweens fara tunanin rashin jin dadi daga waɗannan manya. Ko yayinda yaron kansa ya shafi abin da ya shafi ya dogara da abin da balagagge (s) ba ta amince da kokarin da ya yi ba. Idan masiho ya zo ne daga wanda yaron ba ya son - ce malami maras la'akari - yaron ba zai iya yin hukunci a zuciya ba kuma girman kai zai kasance mai girma. Idan, duk da haka, yaro ya yi imanin cewa iyaye mai ƙauna ko kwararru mai amincewa yana damu da su, rashin girman kai zai iya haifar da shi. To, a bayyane, iyaye suna iya taka muhimmiyar rawa wajen taimakawa yara suyi zaman lafiya .
Sources:
Harter, Susan. Abubuwan Harkokin Kasuwanci da Ɗaukaka Kayan Mutum akan Tsarin Kai. A cikin littafin Jagora na Ɗaukakawa ta hanyar Mroczek da Little (Eds.), Shafuffuka 311-334. 2006. Mahwah, NJ: Erlbaum.
McAdams, Dan, & Olson, Bradley. Shirye-shiryen Mutum: Ci gaba da Sauya Tsarin Rayuwa. Bincike na shekara-shekara na ilimin halin ilimin kimiyya. 2010. 61: 517-542.